Disable the comment box in your life

One thing you'll notice about me, is, I love to reflect on the lessons I've learned and apply them to my daily life. Example: Online dating is not for me so I will not be doing that ever again!! (That's for my next post).

Lately, I've been paying attention to Social Media sites. No, I'm not going to become a compulsive instagrammer! I've been working on material for the radio show recordings, I now have to pay attention to what's trending and share my opinion with our listeners, if they like it or not :)

Social Media sites are interesting and the one part of it that's caught my attention, is the comment section. People get to share their comments on pictures, videos, status update etc. 

You know what I realized? Its impossible for everyone to like you.

I know you've heard people say this. Hell, I say it. But the comments in the comment section really taught me that lesson.

I was looking at some blog and it had pictures of celebrities with their families, new hairstyles, new cars and anything else you could think of. So I clicked on a picture of Beyonce and her baby, I thought the picture was cute (I'm not a fan but I can appreciate a mother daughter bonding moment). So I scrolled down to read a few comments and  after  a couple "Awww, cute!" comments, I started seeing "Uhh, what happened to her baby's hair," "She's not a good singer," "Blue Ivy looks like her damn daddy," "Illuminati!!!" 

I was taken aback for a second, I mean, is it that serious? Enjoy the picture and keep it moving. So, I went on to check out other pictures and it was the same thing, Comments that appreciate the person in the picture and then comments criticizing the mess out of the person that's being showcased at the moment.

Then the statement, "Not everyone is going to like you," came to mind. And it made sense. Wouldn't it be liberating to just do what you want (as long as it makes sense) without having to worry about peoples opinion of you. I am sure if you put out the name of someone you think is the definition of perfection, there will be someone who will find fault in what they've done or what they look like. 

Its time to disable the comment box in your life. Live your life, follow your dreams... Be you. And if people try to talk down on you, don't let those words resonate in your life. Remember, you have no comment section in your life for "haters" (For the record I hate saying haters! But it seemed appropriate for this message). You're not responsible for making anyone happy. You are responsible for making sure your existence on this earth is a pleasant... so get to it. 

New Year... Old struggles?

I'm sitting in my hotel room watching NCIS reruns, eating horrible Chinese, searching for information on google to complete my report, and trying to convince myself to workout.

Its 2014 and I refused to make the same old resolutions - lose weight, eat better, work harder, travel all over the world, make millions, be the next top video vixen... You get my point :)

So here's my plan, make a list of all the resolutions that fell by the wayside in the last three years, and tackle each one at a time.

Here are the 10 issues I plan on resolving this year, If I don't get all them done by the end of 2014, there's always 2015 :) 
1. Start a healthy lifestyle
2. Build up my savings account
3. Release one of my movies
4. Start the Jade D. pod cast series
5. Be a better blogger
6. Get a place outside of Minnesota
7. Travel for fun
8. Go back to school for another round of torture
9. Be more disciplined
10. Be Fearless

If I can finish up items 1 through 8 then I'd be able to check 9 and 10 off my list immediately. 

In this entry, I will layout my plans for Issue number 1 - Start a healthy lifestyle.
I know what I have to do - workout, eat well, get some sleep, drink tons of water- but I don't do it. So for the next 21 days, I am going to challenge myself to do something I've never done....

I'm going to do a water fast!  

Every time I've tried fasting, I get really crabby and hungry. Then I yell at everyone around me and then eat tons of candy and donuts - within the first 3 hours. Epic fail!

Reasons for wanting to do the fast: I do believe the fast will help me cleanse my body and perhaps act like a way of reseting my body. After fasting for a set period of time, I'd like to believe I'd think twice before eating greasy nasty food. I want to give it a try..  If I can't do it then I can scratch it off my list. no biggie.

Well, I am done with blogging for the day. Since I'm starting my fast tomorrow, I am going to get some skittles, drink a milkshake and finish up my chicken fried rice :) I'm kidding.. 
What am I? a child?! I need some wine to go with my skittles and fried rice!

Twenty 10 celebration..

So, its exactly a month to my twenty tenth birthday celebration :) Not sure what happened or how it happened but the "dreaded" number is fast approaching and I'm.... excited!
Its like, I get a chance to take all the lessons -  I forgot as a baby, the ones I ignored in my teens, all the lessons I was forced to learn and re-learn in my twenties - and bring them into this new decade I'm about to face.
The funny thing about lessons is, life keeps repeating them until you get it... And every time they have to be repeated, the situation gets a little tougher. I'll give you an example..
In my quest to find that "one" job or career that will keep me happy, I have moved from major to major (pre-med to biomedical engineering to communications.. etc) after graduating, I found my niche - in film and music, and I loved it! Had my own business and just had fun but to everyone it felt like I was playing around (my work was play but I never played with my work) When things got a little tough - recession hit and money got tight- Everyone had a opinion about the mini financial  crisis I found myself and for the first time, I stopped listening to my gut (and I have a big one that you cant ignore.. okay body issues arising..gotta suppress it..) and started to listening everybody else. I moved away from what I loved, once in a while in a desperate attempt to find that "feeling" I'd pick up projects with people and end up getting burned. With my head bent in shame I'd have to go back to the wagging tongues and their "i told you so's"
This cycle kept repeating itself over and over again. I'd lose more money and a little bit of my self-esteem was chipped away. Then I just got sick of it, sick of it hurting me and my relationships (my close ones were deeply affected by the repercussions of my failures - explain later) and I swear, my neck was starting to hurt from all the head bending!
So one day, actually June 1st, 2012... I decided I'd worked on my last "hired" job as a writer, producer,or director for anyone. The last project I did, The Black Widow, had such potential but due to the Executive Producer's shortsightedness, I'm sure it will  be... what it is (if that makes any sense to you).
I can make my own money and try out my shit, if it doesn't work, okay.. move on. But I'll be damned if another "hollywood/nollywood" hack was going to make me feel like I had to answer to their stupid ass questions.. I could've gone with better terms than "stupid- ass" and "shit" but sometimes these terms, as vulgar as they might seem, can convey the intended message without any misunderstanding.
After making that decision, I set goals for myself... I went back to the work force (Yes, a 9 - 5) and started saving up a storm. Man, I am so thrifty, its ridiculous! But once in a while, when I feel like splurging, I go out to the club and do the bigz girl thingz (I don't work this hard to sit in general and sip on drink specials... VIP and Moet, baby!!) Once in a while... :)

Where was i? Ahh, yes, goals... I set an amount I'd like to have for my next project (I'd like to start shooting mini web series just to help me test the market), and.... crap! I have to get back to work, a patient walked in with a bunch of sebaceous cysts and guess who gets to lance them?!

Don't call this a comeback... Seriously, dont..

Wow, I cant believe 2012 is almost here. This year has been a year of extreme highs and lows but I am extremely grateful for everything.

Hmm, quick summary of whats happened in 2011: I made money, lost a lot of money, experienced serious heart break (yes, o!), learned what it really means to forgive, started recording bits for my radio show, had a chance to co-write a screenplay (currently in production, "The Helpmate" featuring Kalu Ikeagwu and Celi Marie Dean), and then I realized that I still have so much more to learn :)

You know, I suck at blogging and I have absolutely no excuse for not finishing up my post on road trip. I will finish it and I will put up more random posts.

But until then, have a blessed week and wonderful rest of 2011.

Road trip!

Guess who just worked out for an hour? Yeeeah, thats right... I did!
Man, I am so out of shape. I started huffing and puffing after 5 mins so I had to space out the workout. Yes, it took me an hour to do a 35 minute workout. Sadness!! Atleast I worked out, yes?
Why the obsession with working out? Well, my birthday's coming up (its tomorrow, feel free to send me gifts.. I have no amount limit)

Alright, focus time! Since my last post, I went out of town with some friends, worked on a couple screen plays, had tons of e- meetings with old colleagues and potential clients, and topped it off with a whole lotta assignments. Tonight, I'll talk about the trip, I'm sure you'd like to hear about Gram positive bacteria and hyperemesis gravidarum (oooooooh, look at that... I sound smart!) but I'll save that for another day.

The trip....
So my friend met this dude online (on some free online dating site. I am not a big fan of these FREE online dating sites. Nowadays, people meet online, I don't think there's anything wrong with. Just be safe!) and after a few months of chatting online and phone conversations, they decided to introduce their cyber relationship to the real world.

At first, the guy- let's call him Ray- offered to visit my friend- we'll call her Lisa- and later cancelled the trip due to unforeseen circumstances?? he never really said why he couldn't make it.
After a while of waiting, Lisa decided that she would have to go down to see him, so she asked a friend (we'll call her Becky) and myself to go along on this interesting trip.
The roadtrip was great but as we approached our final destination, Lisa got a call from Ray about the hotel reservations, he wanted to know if he could switch it over to her name (he offered to pay for our hotel room and we were okay with that) and use her credit card down but he'd switch the cards and pay for the room later. Lisa gleefully agreed while Becky and I exchanged looks.

When we checked into the hotel (horrible place, I might add!) we found out that Ray had some stuff to do for his event (he's a club promoter) so he'd have to meet us downtown and in a couple hours. We had no problem with it, figured it'd give us more time to check out the lovely town, get something to eat, and do some shopping.
4 hours later, still no word from the guy. Becky and I were ready to go back to the hotel but Lisa wanted to wait for her "knight crappy amour," sooooo, we waited. An hour later he showed up...

Oh, wow look at the time, I need to get some work done. Gotta run now but I'll finish the story later.

Guess who's back?

I graduated!!! Yaaaaay!

Okay enough of that. I am sorry I have been away but things got so crazy the last 3 weeks of school, I couldn't even make time to sleep or eat- so I ended up with a bad case of vertigo.

You should've seen me, I walked around like a drunk holding on to the walls, or any standing structure, for dear life. I couldn't stand up straight for more than 3 seconds. It was crazy and so frustrating. Worst part, I couldn't go to the hospital- I had no insurance.

So I decided to go for the homemade remedies, my friend's mum gave me a very nice concoction named, Agbo Jedi. Oh my goodness! It was so bitter and the smell was horrendous. I don't how I managed to do it but I believe I channeled my freshman year in college and "downed" the drink like a true champion. And ended up screaming like a true punk lol

A few days later, I felt a little better. Took some Dramamine and before graduation, I was back to my old self.  Moral of the story, I need to take better care of myself or else I might have to take another dose of Agbo Jedi.

Things are rough!! (Pt. 1)

15 days to graduation and I am excited and really swamped!! I'm dealing with 5 research papers, 6 case studies, 2 more tests and an insane amount of drama. (Finals are not included)
I could try keeping you updated on the assignments but I'm sure you'd rather hear about the drama- I will share it with you as soon as I can but at this very moment, I have to take a quick nap and get up to work on my lab reports.

Wish me luck :)